Missionary Life

CHURCH_PLANTING_IS_FOR_WIMPS

I’ve been reading the book “Church planting is for wimps” by Mike McKinley and in one chapter he bemoans the fact that most church planters are not honest about how things are REALLY going in their church plant. Most church planters overemphasize whatever good is happening and hardly mention the difficulties. Mike’s book was a refreshing change as he honestly recounts the damaging effects that church planting had on his marriage (and thus warns others not to make the same mistake.)

The following is an extract from a prayer letter from one of my missionary colleagues and I’m grateful for his honesty as I can truly relate to his sentiments.

“Dear Friends & Family,

“How is church planting going?” I don?t particularly enjoy answering this question but I wish I did. With only about 3 months to go until our home assignment in the U.S., it is time to look back at our first full missionary term in Thailand and ask, “What has been accomplished? What do we have to show for ourselves as we head back home and meet with supporters?”


I wish I could tell you that new churches (or at least one new church) has been planted. Or maybe that a small group Bible study of some sort has started that we hope will grow into a church. Or at the very least, we?d like to report about some promising new believers who have come to faith while we?ve been here. We know that in Thailand people are coming to faith, new small groups are starting, and churches are being planted. The statistics that came out for 2009 said that the number of Christians in Thailand is growing seven times faster than the biological growth rate of the country. That is great news. I just wish that we were seeing some of it in our neck of the woods.


We?ve tried a lot of different things but nothing seems to have taken off.... [he goes on to list all the things he has tried]


With all the failures, one might be tempted to throw in the towel and go home. But the funny thing is, leaving the mission field has never crossed our mind. “And why not?” you may ask. Because the ultimate success of church planting in Thailand does not depend upon our efforts but the promise of God. Christ said, “I will build my church and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it.” (Mt 16:18). If Christ has said it will succeed, who are we to say it won?t?”

It was months in the making as the team discussed the finer details of the shirt design, but our Lighthouse shirts have been printed and they look great. We are already planning a second printing only 2 weeks after the first one. There will be some minor modifications on the second printing. We’re going have a small Lighthouse logo on the front of the polo shirt (but not the T-shirt). In Australia I’ve been involved in making a shirt, logos, signs but here the team has had to do it all. Great experience. Our students have asked for the shirts too.

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In Thailand you have special colours for each day of the week. Last Saturday I happened to wear my purple Lighthouse Shirt (I have a navy blue one as well). And the colour for Saturday - purple! I matched. Now I intend to buy a yellow (Monday), pink (Tuesday), green (Wednesday) ,orange (Thursday) shirt and red (Sunday) for the second printing to add to my blue (Friday) and Purple (Saturday) ones. Hopefully, the rest of my team mates will share my enthusiasm to fit in culturally with Thais in wearing the right coloured shirts on the appropriate days.


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On the back is the Bible verse from John chapter 8 verse 12.

Jesus said, "I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life."

Here follows a brutal self-examination of Thai society by a Thai newspaper columnist called Sawai Boonma. The article is very critical of Thai people.  While I'm sure the author was probably vilified in other publications, most people reading the Bangkok Post, ex-pats and Thais, (hard copy and online version) seemed to agree with him.  I feel that he was probably a bit harsh and although all societies have their fair share of slackers, my personal encounters with Thai people are a far cry from the caricature the author paints in this article.  


A Guide to the Perfect Thai Idiot

Bangkok Post 2 May 2010 “Outside the Box” by Sawai Boonma

 

In 1996, three Latin Americans wrote a best-selling book in Spanish which was later translated into English as Guide to the Perfect Latin American Idiot.

Their main contention is that Latin American problems are not caused by outside influences as Latin Americans generally believe. Rather, they result mainly from actions of Latin Americans themselves.

 Correcting Latin American problems, therefore, must come from Latin Americans.

Ask Thais about the causes of last week’s shameful event [the demonstrations and violence in Bangkok] – or of any problems in Thailand for that matter – and they will readily point the finger somewhere else, never at themselves.

I am a Thai so I am part of this well-practiced response. But I now believe that if we continue with this long-running charade of self-deception, Thailand is on its way to becoming a failed state shortly.

We present Thailand as the Land of Smiles full of gentle Buddhists. We regularly give alms to monks and often make donations to temples, believing that those are selfless acts for the welfare of others.

Deep down, however, we do that only because we wish to get something in return – to go to heaven or have a richer next life. It is a trade, pure and simple, nothing kind or selfless about it.

Few of us give for the sake of giving. We are basically very selfish.

Every time we go to the temple or attend a Buddhist ceremony, we duly accept and recite the Five Precepts as a guide to our daily lives, but we leave them there, as we always make promises without ever intending to keep them.

Actually, we understand little about Buddhism.

Even among the ranks of the monks, most do not know the teachings in-depth and lead their lives accordingly – all they know is how to conduct ceremonies from which they earn easy income.

This reflects something deeper – we are generally lazy and like to take short-cuts to the sabai (do-nothing) state. Lottery tickets, therefore, always sell out at premium prices; prostitution is rampant and young women readily marry foreign pensioners.

We love to talk but rarely listen. Even when we do, we often fail to hear, as we never learn to think critically.

We cannot put up with different points of view nor can we work cooperatively.

Many of the over 30 000 Buddhist temples were built next to one another because when we disagreed with one, we just built another.

That the cooperative movement has never been successful here is another indication of our inability to tolerate different points of view.

We readily forgive, so we believe, as our most common utterance is mai pen rai (it doesn’t matter) when someone makes a mistake. But that is only a reflection of the culture of indifference and ready rationalisation.

We can always cite a well-known proverb, a famous poem or a sage’s sharp utterance to justify everything we do.

We complain so much about corruption. But we do little about it.

Worse, we keep electing the same corrupt politicians because they have money and influence from which we hope to benefit.

Survey after survey shows that the majority of us do not mind corruption as long as we get something out of it.

One of the surveys last year showed that almost 85% of us believed that cheating was a normal business practice, making us practically a nation of thieves.

When I raised the matter in this column, I received the angriest responses from fellow Thais, using expressions so colourful that they should not be printed nor uttered within earshot of other humans.

This long-running self-deception has created so much moral deficit, to employ Jospeh Stiglitz’s terminology, that has put Thailand into a state of moral crisis for some time now. Some of the symptoms of this state are the economic crisis of 1997 and the protests culminating in least week’s events.

Of course, we will never admit this, for we are perfect and will continue to be very angry when a foreigner utters something non-complementary about us.

But I do hope that the events of last week shock most of us into re-examining ourselves, our values, and start reducing the moral deficit as well as trying to generate some moral surplus: doing more genuinely voluntary work for the common good similar to the street cleaning carried out by Bangkokians last weekend, but on a regular basis. 

 

Quick! What's your first impression when you think of a shepherd? Yes, that's right - someone who cares for sheep. Someone who knows his sheep by name. Someone who will put himself in danger to save his sheep. And you'll probably think of Jesus who said that he is the Good Shepherd. Jesus says "The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep. ... I am the good shepherd. I know my own, and I'm known by my own; even as the Father knows me, and I know the Father. I lay down my life for the sheep."

But if you're nodding your head and agreeing with me, then you're probably not an average Thai person. I say this because last week, in helping a Thai friend prepare to tell the story of Moses and the burning bush, I had an interesting conversation. I told her that Moses fled from the palace in Egypt and when to work as a shepherd in Midian. "Shepherd!?" she exclaims, "so he became a bad person?"

"Well no", I respond, "he was a good man, it was just his job: working as a shepherd tending sheep."

"But then he must have been a deceiver and a liar. Eveyrone knows shepherds are liars."

I asked her why she said this. There is a story all Thai children learn from the time they're in kindergarten. It goes something like this:

"A shepherd-boy, who watched a flock of sheep near a village, called out , "Wolf! Wolf!" . All the neighbours came to help him, and he laughed merrily at them. He did this four times. But then, the Wolf did actually come. The Shepherd-boy, now really alarmed, shouted in terror: "Wolf! Wolf! Please come and help me; the Wolf is killing the sheep"; but no one paid any attention to his cries. No-one came to help him. The Wolf destroyed the whole flock.

Moral of the story: There is no believing a liar, even when he speaks the truth. Or, more simply put "NEVER trust a shepherd." My friend told me that shepherds are not seen as good, admirable people, based on this fable.  There are precious few sheep in Thailand (Nick and I suffer from serious mutton withdrawal symptoms) so this fable is pretty much all Thai children grow up knowing about sheep and shepherds.

As missionaries here, we need to do what Jesus did and refer to the GOOD shepherd and, like Jesus, also explain what a GOOD shepherd is. Otherwise our Lord who is love, and truth, and the way may be seen as a deceiving liar.


 The teachers giggled and hid their faces behind their hands when I arrived at school to pick up Nina and Emily yesterday. A bad sign.  

As I approached a VERY subdued looking Nina -  a very bad sign - I noticed an even more subdued little boy sitting next to her. Another bad sign. 

One of the other teachers invited me to come and look at Nina’s “handiwork”. A huge bite on the little boy’s cheek. Of course its nothing like the picture above: Nina’s handiwork was in full-colour. 

Aaaagh!!!! 

Nina had taken a vow of silence and refused to tell me what had happened. The class-teacher was not in the class when it happened and could not tell me what happened. Emily – who was not actually present when it happened - told me that the boy had taken Nina’s shoes, Nina had asked for her shoes back and he had not given her her shoes, and so she bit him, but that Nina did not really deserve punishment because she was simply defending her own things, and besides he was quite a naughty little boy who was always hurting other children, etc, etc etc. (This girl needs an “off” switch!) 

The teachers all then gathered round and said  “mai pen rai” which means “don’t worry” and told me that Nina had already apologized. But, hey, how can I not worry? The little Thai boy is half Nina’s height (although twice her width) and is going home with fang marks. What will his parents think? I know how I’d feel if that was my kid! 

And WHY is she biting? She used to bite about a year ago, but she has not bitten for months. She’d completely outgrown it. Why now? 

Nina still refused to talk, even when we got home. We tried to talk to her about it and she was mute. When Nick suggested that she needed a hiding, she nodded her head in assent. 

She was given the hiding and afterwards started talking again. Not about the incident, mind you. She pursed her lips together when that got mentioned. 

After her punishment she chose one of her books to give the little boy as a “sorry” present and today she went off to school ready to present it to him. She also promised to be loving and kind, and never to hurt another child ever again.  Mmmm, we’ll see. 

I dunno. 

Would this be any easier if it had happened in South Africa? Perhaps. The little boy may have spoken up for himself (he does not talk, like many of the kids in Nina’s class) and we may have had a better idea of what had gone on. He may also have reacted differently if he were a South African kid – judging by the marks on his face, and the lack of marks on Nina, he certainly did not defend himself or retaliate. The teachers may have taken a more active role in dealing with the incident and following up with the two sets of parents involved. 

And… I may not have been so concerned about my “Christian” witness and the horrible behaviour of my child and the implications of this incident on extending the Kingdom of God here in Lampang. 

Praise God that he uses us in our weaknesses and that we don’t have to be perfect… or have perfect kids.

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